Is an aggressive woman an attractive woman?

Glad you’re here…

It’s time to discuss this idea that men have about women who have aggressive characteristics.

Were too bossy, too straight forward, too dominant too assertive too bitchy.

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You don’t like the fact that we are self aware and confident in our word. We are not easily controlled and you hate it. You want us to have our own minds yet be submissive to you and your demands but what you really want is more of “a passive aggressive” woman, someone who follows your lead without any talk back. She doesn’t put up a fit, she listens to you and everything is cool with her.

KEEP IT REAL, YOU LIKE WOMEN WHO WILL COOK, CLEAN, SHUT UP AND PUT UP WITH YOUR SHIT.

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Men will say,

“You need to know how to shut up and listen”

“You’re too bossy”

“That’s why you gonna be single forever”

Sorry, I’m not the one to get bossed around, told what to do, when to do it and how to do it. Yet, there’s this notion that men are running the show and that we need to submit to them being the inferior species... After all they wear the pants right?

We about to be in 2020, that shit is so played out now! Women wear pants too… We have voices too, we have thoughts, ideas and feelings. What the fuck we say matters!

The thought that women should hide their aggression or that aggression is unattractive is appealing to a boy who is not a man!

The aspect of control is GONE at that point, a man searching for boss ass woman, a woman of some substance and standards will find that he has met his match. You controlling a woman who knows her worth is NON-EXISTENT. This particular kind of man in my eyes is weak. Weak because he feels the need for mental/ physical control rather than being confident in his position as a MAN.

We are not looked at as equal and I actually had a man tell me this before. I understand the role of man and woman but you are absolutely not going to control my feelings, thoughts and actions! I’m aggressive because…

#1 I’M FROM NEW YORK.

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#2 I like control. I don’t like to feel helpless in any aspect.

(No you canNOT GET KINKY AND handcuff me to the bed)

#3 I feel weak by not being aggressive. People already don’t take women seriously as is.

When I’m aggressive I’m assertive, straight forward and get my point gets across. I don’t come across people who take me lightly because I give off the vibe in the way I speak and carry myself that I AM FAR FROM A JOKE. I mean business. Period.

WHY IS IT THAT BLACK WOMEN ARE PERCEIVED AS BEING AGGRESSIVE JUST BECAUSE WE WON’T PUT UP WITH YOUR SHIT?

Aggression doesn’t necessarily have to equal negativity. Aggression can project that you are simply NOT THE ONE TO BE PLAYED WITH. I mean at least in my case it does.

White woman are found to be more submissive and in an end result, more appealing to a man which is probably why a lot of black men have pulled the plug on black women. A comment from a black Miami dolphin player states

“black women grew up in broken homes and they don’t have guidance on how to treat a man. A white woman knows her position and accepts her role as a woman and lets her man lead. Black women believe it’s 50/50”

Maybe the men I’ve come across were just not it… or maybe I’m just TOO aggressive. Or maybeeee ya’ll just weak!! I could never understand why people found me to be…” too aggressive”. I mean I know that I am but am I really TOO aggressive??? There’s actually men out there who perceive me as being a threat and I’m totally confused by it. Yes, a woman with my intelligence, beauty and stature can be intimidating but should be attractive to a grown ass man.

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Traits of an aggressive woman-

  • Strong tone of voice, delivery

  • Demanding, bossy

  • Debater, not necessarily argumentative but will finish what you’ve started

  • Attitude

  • Desire to be dominant, in control

  • Probably outspoken

“I think it’s sexy and there’s reasons why everyone can’t see the beauty in it. They either can’t relate, can’t comprehend why she’s this way or can’t deal with it because it makes them seem weak in the process. It’s ok to be aggressive but there’s a time and a place for that whether it’s in a debate, argument, misunderstanding, or the bedroom. She wants to win at all cost. The aggression can be honed to place that energy where most effective. Those pockets of effectiveness would work wonders for this woman of power. Regardless of the position or title, this person is “Powerful”

-E

A bold, assertive woman is a woman who knows what she wants, she is strong and frankly a boss ass woman.