Men, stop lying to yourself. You CARE

Ya’ll love us but put on this front like we not that bad, not that pretty not that worth it. YOU CARE, BUT YOU ACT LIKE YOU DON’T UNTIL WERE GONE. You feed yourself lies because you think it makes you stronger to not deal with it head on. It makes you more of a “man” not to show emotion, to not be in your feelings.

NO, WHAT IT MAKES YOU IS A FOOL BECAUSE NOW YOU’VE LOST HER.

You know what I’m tired of???

MEN WHO DON’T DEAL WITH THEIR SHIT.

Stop maneuvering though life, in and out of women’s lives thinking that it’s ok to not be emotionally present or PRETEND that you don’t care when in reality you do. You gonna fuck around and lose a good woman if you haven’t already…

Why come into someone’s life exhibiting the intention of longevity when really its just sex? Why come into someone’s life to be dishonest and manipulative?

WHY PUT IN THE EFFORT TO LOVE A WOMAN AND NOT FIGHT FOR HER???

WHY DO YOU TELL US YOU DON’T CARE WHEN IN REALITY YOU DO?

Listen, all that shit is childish, keep it 100 and let people know how you really feel. If you like someone let them know. If you love someone, DON’T LET THEM GO. If you want to call/ text someone do it. If you want to spend time with someone, DO IT. Stop being scared to care for others because you think you’re gonna get hurt in the process.

What are you afraid of? What is stoping you from giving the woman you love your all? Are you afraid of what people might think? Are you afraid of commitment? Are you afraid that your feelings will get hurt?

NEWS FLASH THAT’S LIFE.

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THROW AWAY THE IDEA THAT IT’S “THIRSTY” to want to be in someone’s presence often because you like/love them.

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\We are all grown here, if you want something be upfront and GO AFTER IT. TREAT PEOPLE LIKE THEM YEEZY’S YA’LL GO AFTER WHEN THEY BOUT TO SELL OUT.

 OOPS.

OOPS.

Personally, the time and effort people put into me speaks volume and I always pay attention closely. Don’t matter if your a friend or you’re my boyfriend, if you’re in my presence outside of something that is mandatory like work or school then I expect some effort from you because I took my personal time to kick it with you. YES my time is valuable and I cherish it,

POINT IS, STOP WASTING PEOPLE’S TIME.

Don’t get what I am saying confused with my previous blogs where I stated the lack of emotion I have when it comes to men. I STILL LOVE GREATLY. The only difference is I DON’T LET PEOPLE PLAY ME NOW.

I sniff out the bullshit like a K-9, take your games else where because they won’t be tolerated here.

Men will drain your mental, emotional and spiritual then when you move on or try to it’s “You left me” “You broke my heart” “We broke up because you left” “That was your decision”

NO IT WAS YOUR’S WHEN YOU THOUGHT YOU COULD PLAY WITH MY EMOTIONS, DAMAGE MY MENTAL THINKING I WOULD STAY.

You took everything from me but want me to be there in the moments that you needed me? Oh so you want me to kill myself loving you? That’s totally not happening… I’ve already acknowledged that my mental health comes FIRST. Nothing or no one will take that from me AGAIN.

Subconsciously I used to put loving people before myself but I have definitely learned my lesson in that area and is why I speak from the perspective I do.

I’M PROTECTIVE OVER MY SANITY.

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I NEED MEN TO KNOW THAT IT’S OK TO BE EMOTIONALLY INVOLVED WHEN LOVING YOUR WOMAN. YOU MUST IF YOU WANT A SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP.

You can’t be emotionally unavailable and try to love someone!

Be open, be receptive be PRESENT.

Stop thinking that you can do whatever you please and your woman won’t eventually leave or fuck on someone else. The main reason why women fuck off in the first place is because we are not being emotionally fulfilled. If a man cheats it’s probably because he want’s new pussy and isn’t being sexually fulfilled. The science behind our reasons cannot be compared. Men and woman fuck off for totally different reasons.

Although there are women who fuck off JUST to be sexually pleased as well. NOT EVERY WOMEN IS EMOTIONAL.

The point I really need to make clear is this notion that a man can do whatever he wants and we’ll be sitting there waiting for you to get it right.

STOP THIS NON SENSE OF BEING SURPRISED WHEN WE MOVE ON.

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You are grown and should be fully aware of your habits, your behavior and what you’ve done to contribute to a unhealthy relationship. I should not have to remind you of who you are.

NO ONE should be subjected to mental, physical emotional or spiritual abuse in a relationship based on “LOVE”. Love clearly does not exist there. Only toxicity.

Men if you take the time to love and grow with a woman, VALUE THAT. VALUE HER. Don’t be nonchalant in your feelings of loving her, DON’T HOLD BACK and lose out on something good. Accept the wrongs you have done and make a conscious decision to stay or GO.

Don’t dish out what you can’t take. Don’t cheat if you don’t want to be cheated on, don’t lie if you don’t wanna be lied to.

DON’T THINK WE ARE CAPABLE OF BEING THERE FOR YOU IN TIMES WHERE YOU HAVE NEEDED US WHEN YOU STRIPPED US OF EVERYTHING WE HAD TO GIVE.

To all my ladies out there. Don’t lose your mind trying to love someone else. Don’t feel guilty for leaving if you don’t feel appreciated. In the end CHOOSE YOU.